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Saturday, December 8, 2012

A Camera, a Tree, and a Family


It's that time of year again; time for the anual Christmas card photo.  This year we opted to do an indoor shoot in front of our Christmas tree.  For family pictures we used the timer setting on the camera.  This gave us the usual hits and misses.

The Hits...
 
 






The Misses..








Sunday, December 2, 2012

My story

Someone recently asked me the story of my heart problems and how I could continue as a missionary despite it. It is a long story involving 4 countries and 9 cardiologist, so I’ll give you the highlights. It starts about 4 years ago when I lived as a missionary in the Philippines. I had some irregular heartbeats when I had a gallbladder attack, but after surgery it seemed to go away. 6 months later I had an emergency appendectomy and nearly died do to a heart problem during surgery. A couple of weeks post-op I began to have daily irregular heartbeats. We saw various doctors in the Philippines and tried a medication, but I wasn’t happy with them and the mediation didn’t work. A few months later we went to Thailand for medical checkups for the family. The cardiologist there told me I was at risk for sudden cardiac death and put me on a serious medication (listed side effects included: blindness, lung damage, death). After a week of thinking I could drop dead at any moment we decided to return to the USA. The cardiologist in FL took me off the medication and diagnosed me with ventricular tachycardia and a mitral valve prolapse with mild-moderate regurgitation. I usually have daily irregular heartbeats where it feels like my heart is racing and skipping beats. Many of them I can ignore. I sometimes feel short of breath. It can cause anxiety sometimes too. When I have a lot of them or a really long one I get really tired. A few times I have felt light headed and nearly fainted. The doctor, and subsequent doctors, told me “you’re fine until you’re not”. So, I am supposed to have yearly checkups, come in when things change and when I’m unsure go to the ER (sometimes ventricular tachycardia can lead to ventricular fiberlation, where the heart beat is so chaotic that it doesn’t supply enough oxygen to the body and if not immediately treated leads to death. So that is why if I am in doubt I should go to the ER, even though at this point it isn’t likely to happen). At one point when things were more frequent we tried a 3rd medication to no avail. Then we discussed surgery with a heart surgeon. He said I wasn’t a good candidate. Last year I saw another cardiologist here in Japan and he looked into ablation, but decided that it wasn’t necessary. So there you have my long heart story. I’m okay until I’m not! Lol!


All of this heart drama lead to a lot of thinking and praying about what life is all about. There were times when we really believed (even if it turned out later not to be true) that I could die at any moment. We realized that for all of us, whether we have a heart problem or not, the number of days we live is really out of our hands. Anyone of us could die suddenly in a car accident, for example. God is the one who sustains us. My husband and I talked and thought a lot about how we want to live our lives. We’ve decided that it isn’t just about how much time we have here on earth, but about how you spend that time. I want to spend it being faithful to what God has called me to do. I want to make an impact on eternity. Life on earth is but a breath and eternity with God awaits me. I’m living now for a better then.

In all honesty, it isn’t easy. I do feel sometimes like why did God call me, with my medical issues, my family’s medical problems and all my personal shortcomings to Japan? Surely there was someone better out there to do this! I get frustrated. I have culture shock moments. I miss having an oven, and a warm house, and a dryer and Walmart, and inexpensive produce year round. Even more than that, I miss my family. I even have moments of self-pity. I sometimes forget the big picture and start thinking about me instead of focusing on the big God who can do big things with small people. I guess you could say I am really learning that “his grace is sufficient for me and that his power is made perfect in my weakness.” I am so not the perfect missionary!

But there are also times when I look around me amazed that God would allow me to live here and to do this. I have no greater joy than sharing the love of Jesus and what’s more I’ve got people sacrificing their money so that I get to do that! I’ve had moments where I have looked around me and felt moved with compassion for the people of Japan. My heart breaks when I am reminded of the hundreds of people here that are so hopeless that they commit suicide. It drives me to do more to reach them. Besides that, I’ve got hundreds of people praying for me. I can’t tell you how humbling and how powerful it is to get an e-mail from someone saying they are praying for me.

So I’m learning to live with this heart condition. I still make some doctor trips and ER trips as I figure out what is normal for me, but they are happening less frequently now. I am learning to live with my limitations and adapt to my new situation. I remember at one point after my appendectomy praying that all of this medical drama would be over. God said it was not over (in fact it was just before all the heart stuff started) and he lead me to 2 Corinthians chapter 4…

“ But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. 8 We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9 persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 10 We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. 11 For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that his life may also be revealed in our mortal body. 12 So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you… 16 Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. 17 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” 2 Cor. 4: 7-12, 16-18.

And that is what I’m trying to do, to fix my eyes on what is unseen. I’m not always successful. I’m not a super saint. There are others who have sacrificed more, have great trials, greater faith and greater victories. In the end it doesn’t matter where you live, what you have or how healthy you are. What matters is that you are where God wants you to be, doing what he wants you to do. When you are in that place you find peace.

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Thanksgiving in Japan

There were never Pilgrims that sailed on the Mayflower nor the Native Americans who helped them adapt to a new land in Japan.  Thanksgiving is not a holiday here.  That doesn't mean that Americans living in Japan aren't going to eat turkey!  We did still manage to celebrate the day.  On the fourth Thursday in November we gathered in Tokyo with fellow American A/G missionaries for a Turkey dinner.  It was a great time to relax, hear what others are doing, and, of course, eat!  Getting together with fellow missionaries made being away from family during the holiday a little easier.

On the way home we stopped at Costco (yes there is a Costco in Japan!) and picked up 3 frozen turkeys and other supplies for our church's upcoming pot luck.  We got there 20 minutes before closing.  I raced around the huge warehouse like I was on one of those grocery store game shows, flinging food into the cart!  Thankfully, we managed to pick up all the necessary food before the store closed.

Today, the Sunday after thanksgiving, we had a Thanksgiving themed potluck at church.  We were excited to see many guests, including several students and faculty from the University, joined us to taste the special American food.  For some of these guest this was one of the only times they had ever stepped inside a church.  We took time to reflect on what we were thankful for and enjoyed a worship service.  After service a Thanksgiving dinner with all the trimmings was served.  Some international additions to the traditional feast were included thanks to our multinational congregation.

In between these events we even did other typical American things.  I did some "black Friday" shopping on-line for Christmas gifts for family members in the USA.  I got the added bonus of early bird discounts without even having to get up early as our time is 14 hrs ahead of Eastern Standard time!
We also set up our Christmas tree that we brought with us when we moved to Japan as it is our tradition to put it up on the day after Thanksgiving.  Now that Thanksgiving is past, we are looking forward and planning for ways to reach out to the University students this Christmas.


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

More Medical Drama

I haven't blogged in awhile, because life has gotten a little bit crazy. It all started with a phone call that I got from a classmate of Chris'. They were in an ambulance with Chris that had just left language school and were on the way to the hospital. Chris had been feeling poorly ever since his routine colonoscopy a couple of weeks previously. Then on that particular morning he had suddenly felt very bad, had numbness in his hand and feet and had started to faint. His teacher and fellow student accompanied him to the hospital and waited for me and the kids to arrive. I was so impressed that they came! Not only that, but a fellow missionary friend rushed down from Tokyo to help interpret. What a blessing! They ran a lot of tests, but didn't really come to any conclusions. After a couple more doctor visits and a couple more tests over the next couple of weeks they decided that he had some bruising from his colonoscopy and had chronic gastritis. They still aren't sure why he has tingling in is face, hands and feet. So tomorrow he is having an MRI to check his brain and the disks in his spine.

Meanwhile Addie's arthritis has been acting up. I took her to the local doctor. He is the head of Pediatrics at a University Hospital, however he is not a specialist in arthritis. He didn't really seem to understand the subtleties of Adelaide's illness. He told me that she just might have to live in pain. I was not convinced and decided it was time for a second opinion. Last week I went to see a specialist in Tokyo. After 2 hours of train rides with 2 little children and a short walk we reached the hospital. The doctor was fantastic! He really took time to examine Addie. He understands that kids with arthritis can still be somewhat active, even when they are in pain. He found 5 swollen joints. He was concerned that if we don't get this taken care of she could have permanent joint damage. He then ordered x-rays and other tests. He gave her some new medicine to take temporarily in addition to what she was already on. Tomorrow we go back to see if she can start ultra low dose of chemotherapy. Of course with this type of medication there can be serious side effects, but for some kids with arthritis they can be pain free!

Even while all this is going on we are trying to keep as normal a life as possible. I'm still busy homeschooling the kids. The school year ends in Japan in March and then starts up again in April. So I've been getting ready for the next school year too. After a week of rest Chris went back to language school, even though he still isn't 100%. He is also still teaching Sunday School at our church. We know that we are right where God has called us to be and are happy to be here. Still, all of these medical issues are a bit of a distraction that we would rather do without! We would appreciate your prayers for full health for all of us!

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Animals Outside My Door

I just heard a cat fight outside. Chris said, “maybe it's being attached by the tunuki.” This reminded me that Chris and Addie spotted this animal in the garden across the street from our house a couple of months ago. It also made me think that this is one animal I had never heard of before moving to Japan and I thought, perhaps, some of you would be interested in it as well. If you want to just what in the world a tanuki is try this link...
http://factsanddetails.com/japan.php?itemid=888&catid=26&subcatid=164

Sunday, January 15, 2012

A Typical Sunday

We start the day by dragging ourselves out of bed and into the cold air (we don't heat the house overnight and temps are usually in the upper 30's in the house when we wake up). Chris gets up first, turns on the heater in the kitchen and preps for teaching Bible study. Chris then drags me out of bed and gets in the shower, while I run around like a crazy person getting everyone ready for church. This is largely do to the fact that I am not a morning person and have a hard time getting out of bed. Lol!

We pile into the car, which anyone with young kids knows, is an accomplishment. Then we head to Tsukuba University where we pick up a student and bring him to church.
Chris teaches Hermeneutics (how to interpret scripture) as a a Sunday school class. Then we all attend the main service (the kids go to children's church after worship). After church there a light refreshments and fellowship. This week we said goodbye to one international student from Nigeria and hello to a new student from the Philippines. Our church has many international students that are frequently coming and going.

We get home around 1:30 or 2 and eat a late lunch. We watched My Dog Skip. I think this is the first movie that has ever made Addie cry. Still, it was a pretty good film. I brought down Stratego, a favorite board game, and played with Wesley. Hudson and Addie made a big bed on the living room floor with a bunch of pillows and blankest and pretended to be cats. Then they decided that they wanted to play Stratego. This didn't quite workout so well as Hudson (at age 4) doesn't like to play by the rules. LOL! Meanwhile, Chris went to the Joyful Honda (a home depo type of store) to pick up our next weeks worth of kerosene for our vented heater.

After he return we had the cock-a-leeky soup and salad I made for dinner along with some french bread. The kids played a little bit more and Chris and I discovered the fun in playing “scramble” together on our i-phones. Soon it was all hands on deck for a quick living room and kitchen tidy up. I vacuumed and Chris did the dishes. Once the kids were in the pajamas and had brushed their teeth, Chris read a portion of scripture to the family and prayed. Then he took the kids up to bed while I sat down to iron and fold a couple loads of laundry. Life without a dryer = lots of ironing. However, I have discovered that watching something on Hulu, makes ironing a less terrible chore to do. After some Hulu viewing with Chris we headed off to bed, and so ended a typical Sunday.

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Back to Blogging

Now that the holidays are over and we are finally feeling more settled, I am hoping to blog more often. Of course, no sooner to I decide this than my laptop dies. :( Now I've got to figure out how to use our new Mac. I'm a PC girl, but it is easier to write in Japanese on a Mac (once I actually know enough Japanese to type something). I also need to discover how to do things like upload photos and be able to find them again. In fact rather than face the Mac and the cold room that it is sitting in, I am borrowing Chris' netbook. Still, I am finally blogging again. In an endeavor to write more frequently, I'm not going to wait to figure out my computer woes! Hence, there may be some blogs post lacking pictures. I also might expand my topics to more than just typical missionary stuff. After all, the life of a missionary isn't really compartmentalized. I aim to serve the Lord in all I do. So stay tuned for more insights into my crazy life and you can find out just a little bit more about what it is like, from one family's perspective, to be a missionary in Japan.

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Here is a video we posted on YouTube about our first few months as missionaries in Japan:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLhY9KsPgYo

Monday, September 19, 2011

We're home!


At last we have a home of our own! We greatly appreciate the help of our friends here in Japan in assisting us with our house hunting efforts. We found what is called a "5 DK" (5 rooms plus a dining/kitchen) available to rent at a great price. Plus it is within walking distance to one of the best parks around! This home is a real answer to prayer!


Now that we've found a home, we have been busy setting everything up. We moved in with just the bags we brought on the airplane. That has ment that a lot of time has been spent buying and assembling furniture over the past couple of weeks. While the furniture at IKEA is the cheapest stuff around (even less expensive than the local second hand shop), it does come in tiny bits. Chris spent many hours putting things together. Thankfully Thomas came to his rescue with power tools and the process proceded much more quickly!

We are not fully moved in yet, but I couldn't wait to show you around our new home...


When you first walk into our home you find this entry way. In Japan you always take off your shoes before entering the home. Our house came with this shoe cupboard, but it did not come with a coat closet. So, I assembled a free standing coat rack and added it to our entry way.

From the entry way, you go up a step and are then in the main hallway. It is a wide hallway. Because of the extra room we moved the china cabinet, that was left in the house by the previous occupants, into the hallway. This gave us some more space in the small kitchen. At the end of the hallway you can see the staircase that lead to the second story. Like many homes in Japan each room is separate and has doors as opposed to an open floor plan. This allows you to heat or cool one room at a time and saves on utility bills.

To the right of the entry way is our living room. It's difficult to tell from the pictures, but the living room is covered in a pale green textured wallpaper. I plan on hanging up the curtains I brought with me from the US on the window above if I can figure out how to get the hooks off of this curtain rod.

This photo shows our deep window sill where I have a bunch of photo frames. Now I just need to add pictures! LOL! Where the wooden chair is I now have a recliner that we just purchased (after the picture was taken) that matches the couch. You can also get a glimpse of our Air conditioner unit. Like most homes in Japan there is no central heat or air. We have an A/C unit in Wesely's room, but we don't have any heaters yet.

This is my IKEA "cubbie" that I plan to use as a TV stand. The books will be moved out and DVD cases will be moved in once those items arrive from our shipment from the Philippines. Also, in this photo you can see the sliding door that leads into our kitchen. We keep extra dining room chairs in front of this door.

Adjoining the living room is the eat in kitchen. Because of a lack of counter space and easily accessible cupboards, we got this occasional table from IKEA. We use it to house our small appliances, a few everyday dishes and for some of our food storage. I also use it as a workspace when cooking. Next to it is a fridge that a Japanese friend was kind enough to lend us (along with the convection/microwave oven).


This table folds out to sit up to 8 people. We plan to paint the chairs white to match the table. This is all of the built in kitchen that came with the house. Actually, we had to add the range. Thankfully a friend lent us one. The window sill is nice and deep and I use it to store our dish drainer, spices and canisters.

Across from the living room and to the left of the front door is the traditional Japanese room that we made our bedroom. The paper framed walls are window covers. Next to the bed behind the paper shades is a sliding glass door. As a side note, since this picture was taken we now have a lamp shade.

Our bed isn't quite finished yet. I bought a duvet and a cover for it, only to discover that the cover was the wrong size. I still need to go back to Nitori, a local home furnishing store to get a full size duvet cover. I plan to get a Navy blue one.
This photos shows the closet doors and the sliding doors into our room.


Just past our bedroom and to the left of the staircase is the sink/laundry room. The vanity is typical of Japanese homes. The walls cannot support a towel rack, so I assembled a child sized free standing coat rack on which to hang our towels.







Adjoining the sink/laundry room is the shower room. Traditionally in Japan a person showers and then once clean, soaks in the small, but deep tub. You can see that this tub comes up well past Hudson's waist when he is standing inside it. In most Japanese homes the tub is filled once and the water is saved for the entire family to take turns using it




Just to the right of the stair case is a small toilet room. Water comes out the top when you flush so that you can wash your hands. Other than that it is an ordinary toilet and not nearly as fancy as some of the Japanese toilets can be. There is also a toilet room just like this one upstairs.
Continued in part 2...

Part 2 of We're home

On to the upstairs...

Adelaide's room is the first bedroom at the top of the stairs on the right. It is a traditional Japanese room made up in a non-traditional way! Addie wanted her room to look like she was outside. It has a princess garden theme. We placed a green shag rug that looks a little like grass over the traditional tatami floor. We also used foamies to make a flower boarder around the wall. Wooden butterflies are attached to the wall and the picture frame above is awaiting pictures of the family.


















Across from her name and butterfly wall, right next to the door is her bench. It doubles as a desk, perfect for her many art projects. Not shown in the pictures is a large closet that store her toys and also has a built in wardrobe for her clothes.

This photo was taken before we had finished assembling Addie's bed. It's a double bed. Adelaide's room doubles as a guest room and Addie is willing to give it up to anyone who wants to come and visit. ;) Above the bed is her flower night light and now (not shown in the picture) there is a mosquito net to add a princess canopy feel. Also not shown in this picture is the small live ficus tree Addie insisted on getting for her room. She is very dedicated to taking care of her little tree. Addie is delighted to once again have her own room.


We never expected to have a house large enough for Hudson to have his own room. In fact, we thought all the kids might have to share a room. The children's prayers were answered when we found this larger than expected home. We were able to turn the office (it's a small room without a closet) into a bedroom for Hudson. His room has a car and airplane theme.

An end table and a bench make a nice kid size desk that is just right for Hudson. Since this picture was taken we have added a small dresser and moved the basket from the "desk" to the top of the dresser.

Hudson bed folds up into a chair and gives him some floor space to play on. You can see his bed folded up in the picture where Hudson is sitting at his desk and in the picture below see it folded out.
The final stop on the tour of our new home is Wesley's room. This room doubles as a school room.




Since some of my homeschooling friends may be interested in how I have set up our school room, I'll fill you in on the details. We have US history and geography area with a USA map, poster of all the American president and a geography poem. We also have 3 tall bookshelves that are pretty empty now, but will be very full once our shipment from the Philippines arrives. I have a couple of non-fiction shelves, shelves for their favorite series, easy readers, Five In A Row books, holiday books and other books. I also have a basket on a shelf that holds our math manipulatives, one that hold art supplies, and one that holds language arts and preschool manipulatives. Two small containers are used for storing pencils, calculators and other school supplies and a basket is handy for recycling paper.

Inside the large closet we have a shelf for games, my teaching files in a tote and a tote for science kits and seasonal craft supplies. Wesley also keeps his toys and we store hand me down clothes for Hudson in this closet. One one side there is a built in wardrobe where Wesley keeps his clothes. A multiplication chart in on one closet door. I plan to put a weather chart and graphs on the other.

Also in one photo you can see Wesley standing in the window sill. This leads out to the balcony. All the children have window entries to the balcony. This is a small balcony that's main purpose is for drying laundry (it is to expensive to run a dryer and we, like most Japanese do not own one).















Wesley's bed folds into a chair (as seen in the photo) and folds out into a bed. It is the same bed that is in Hudson's room. This provides a lot of extra floor space and a handy spot for reading stories.
School time in this room mostly takes place at this table. It is another piece of furniture that was left by the previous occupants. While it is a bit small for mealtimes, it is just right for schooling. Soon our new school computer will be placed on this table.

Now you've had a preview of our house. I wish I could have you all over for a tour of the real deal, but I'm afraid that for most of our friends and family in America (and other countries of the world) this will have to do. Setting up house is still a work in progress here. We'll be sure to post more pic's as we go along.

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Car Hunting?



This one is too big.
So, since the last blog we've been busy: car shopping, house shopping, furniture shopping, honko shopping (don't ask—it would take too long to explain), grocery shopping, doctor shopping...well you get the picture. As a man—having the inclinations and aversions bestowed by nature—I do not enjoy shopping. The one gleaming sparkle of light in an otherwise dark and foreboding week was of course the car hunting—not shopping...HUNTING. There is nothing like test driving, looking under hoods, and of course the new car smell. And the beautiful thing is that thanks to Speed the Light and the youth of Alaska, when the kill shot comes, and the salesman says “let's fill out some papers and get this loan going.” I get to stare him down and simply say, “do you take cash.” (I'm not joking about the cash thing. In Japan, they don't take checks. They really just carry around piles of money.)
The back seats are too low.
You can imagine my surprise and dismay when I discovered that buying a car in Japan is more like being invited to a tea party than striking out with a hunting party. First of all, we did most of our car hunting without an interpreter. Understand that Lindsey, Wesley, Adelaide, and Hudson can count to 10 in Japanese; while itinerating, I did Rosetta stone and read some grammar here and there. So basically I can count a bit higher than 10 and generally get myself into more trouble than the rest of the family. So we would go to a car dealer, and things would go something like this: “Good afternoon. We arrived in Japan last week. I'm very sorry, but I only speak a little bit of Japanese. Do you speak English” At this point the greeter would begin talking, “Only little bit English...Blah blah...car...blah blah a few...blah blah...here...inside...blah blah blah blah...tea, calpis, water...blah blah.” Along the way, I keep saying “hai” = “yes” whenever it seems appropriate. About now I am thinking, what in the world does tea have to do with cars?; but I say, in my best Japanese, “Hai, here is a car. We need a new one of these things. It must seat 7 persons.” The sales person responds incredulously, “7 people?...1...2...3...4...5...there are 5 people here.” Not knowing how to say we would like to be able to take more than just our family in the car, I say, “hai 3 kids, 2 parents, 2 grandparents.” The salesperson says, “hai, I understand.” Now instead of actually looking at the cars, we are whisked away to the CAR-LESS “showroom.”

This one is too small!
At this point, we are invited to place our tea orders. After several minutes, a waitress comes out bearing a tray of drinks and snacks. Now the salesperson makes an entrance laden with color catalogs. Now we are greeted again, “good afternoon, do you speak Japanese.” I say, “as for Japanese, I only speak a little bit.” The response: “hai, hai...my English not too good either.” For the next 20 minutes or so, we are shown a plethora of pictures punctuated with lots of, “blah, blah, blah, expensive, blah blah, red, less expensive, this one is good, blah blah.” I could only take so much before somewhat sheepishly interjecting, “isn't this car right over there, outside?” Response: “hai, hai, right over there.” So, I say, still in my best Japanese, “couldn't we go look at it?”

With a quick “hai” we are ushered out the door to inspect the vehicle. We kick tires, move seats, pop the hood, sit in the seats. Then, I ask, “as for this car, how much does it cost.” Ohhhh no! Its back to the show room! After another 45 minutes or so of wrangling with the language we get a quote. I ask in Japanese, “kono kuruma ga ikura deska...subette koni” which I suspect means something like “what does the car cost with all taxes and dealer fees included? This is followed by yet another flurry of activity. Awhile later, I receive a number. Now I ask for the quote to be formalized on paper. When the paper finally arrives, I want to confirm that the figure includes all costs. So, I repeat the question about everything being included. This meets with, “just a moment.” She comes back and says we can take 80,000 Yen off. Of course I say, "Hai, Hai, Hai!"




There are some obvious lessons here: 1. everything takes a long time in Japan so pace yourself 1 dealer a day--max; 2. when buying cars think “tea party” and leave it to your wife, if possible; 3. keep asking the same question in bad Japanese over and over again and the cars will get cheaper and cheaper.
 
 
 

Ahhhh, this one is just right.

The good news is that after enduring only a half dozen such tea parties, we finally did decide on the Nissan Lafesta Highway Star, and we even invited the sales lady to church. The bad news is that in Japan, you pick the car you want, then they build it. “So sorry Kaata San, please wait 6 to 8 weeks!”